Self care part 5: Temperance

Self care part 5: Temperance
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In caring for ourselves, we often don’t know where to start.  The acronym of NEW START can help.  The 5th letter stands for:


Temperance, which involves self-control and moderation, is a valuable concept that can significantly contribute to your emotional and mental health.  Here’s how:

First and foremost, temperance empowers you to manage your emotions effectively. Life is filled with a ton of emotions, some of which can be quite intense. When you practice temperance, you gain the ability to regulate these emotions in a healthy way. It allows you to pause and reflect before reacting impulsively, which can be particularly helpful during moments of stress or conflict. By doing so, you create a space for more constructive responses, promoting inner peace and strengthening your emotional resilience.  Knowing that you kept your cool during a trying time can also bolster and improve your self-esteem.

Another essential aspect of temperance is its role in managing addictive behaviors. It helps you resist the allure of instant gratification and instead opt for healthier, long-term choices. Any time you’re faced with the choice of engaging in the addictive behavior or choosing the alternative, ask yourself “what do I want more?  Do I want to buy this trinket or do I want a clean house?” “Do I want to drink this bottle of wine, or would I rather feel good when I wake up in the morning?” Then remove yourself from the temptation.

Temperance is a journey of self-discovery. It encourages you to explore your values, priorities, and triggers. By being mindful of your actions and reactions, you can gain profound insights into your inner world. This self-awareness is a cornerstone of our therapeutic journey, allowing you to work on core issues and make meaningful changes in your life.

In closing, I want you to understand that temperance is not about deprivation but about empowerment. It’s a tool that can help you navigate the complexities of life with grace and resilience.

When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control how you respond to what’s happening.  That’s where your power is!

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