#VoicesOfTherapy: The journey of forgiveness
The journey to forgiveness was long, arduous and painful with many relapses.
I was in graduate school when I visited my first therapist. My masters in counseling program required we engage in therapy services before becoming a therapist. I had never thought about going to therapy before and was not prepared for the emotional roller coaster. I quickly realized that I had a lot of resentment and repressed emotions about my mother.
I had been holding on to my resentment, bitterness and pain since middle school. The mother-daughter relationship is the most beautiful but can be very contentious. I never felt my mother loved me and often felt a part of me was missing as a result. I had a hard time connecting in relationships with other women because I never bonded with my mom. I used my mother’s neglect as fuel to become successful but I was in need of healing.
My therapist was patient with me and allowed me to express my emotions without getting caught up in them. She supported me and provided a safe space for me to explore and process my emotions. I periodically seek counseling to continue the work because it’s a journey not a destination. I have forgiven my mother and actively work to stay positive. My experience helps me to stay objective with my clients both adolescent and adults.
Want to help others by sharing your therapy story? You can do so anonymously at http://bit.ly/voicesoftherapy.