The journey to forgiveness was long, arduous and painful with many relapses.
I was in graduate school when I visited my first therapist. My masters in counseling program required we engage in therapy services before becoming a therapist. I had never thought about going to therapy before and was not prepared for the emotional roller coaster. I quickly realized that I had a lot of resentment and repressed emotions about my mother.
I had been holding on to my resentment, bitterness and pain since middle school. The mother-daughter relationship is the most beautiful but can be very contentious. I never felt my mother loved me and often felt a part of me was missing as a result. I had a hard time connecting in relationships with other women because I never bonded with my mom. I used my mother’s neglect as fuel to become successful but I was in need of healing.
My therapist was patient with me and allowed me to express my emotions without getting caught up in them. She supported me and provided a safe space for me to explore and process my emotions. I periodically seek counseling to continue the work because it’s a journey not a destination. I have forgiven my mother and actively work to stay positive. My experience helps me to stay objective with my clients both adolescent and adults.
–Iyea B
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